Moving On
A long time friend just broke ties with me. Over money. Yea, it happens to a lot of people, but the way this situation unfolded was anything but ordinary. It was downright juvenile.
Put simply, a message on Facebook.
Exactly, why?
Something like this couldn't have waited a little longer? I just finished a 9 day show, and sang in 3 services. My body is exhausted, I got a touch of the stomach flu or whatever is ailing me, my sister may have cancer, and yet I find a message in my inbox telling me that our friendship is over because of money? Hmm, that's pretty lame if you ask me.
I mean, to throw away years of friendship so flippantly? That may happen to some people, but that does not happen to ME. However, it was her choice, so I respected it. I prayed about it, and I believe it's God's will to let this happen. I have not shed a single tear, nor will I ever regret making this decision. Looking back, I realize that I deserve better. And that she needs someone who can knock some sense into her. I am done giving all the time. I mean, I don't mind. It's what I like to do. And not because I always expect something in return. I just love serving people and giving to them. However, she likes the whole give and take friendship. Which, I believe, is a shallow foundation on which our friendship was built on. A mistake on my part.
However, to call me stupid on a daily basis, telling me how inferior I am in subtle yet biting ways, and constantly tell me that I eat way too much and that I should go on a diet is not edifying at all. Maybe she doesn't want to see the flaws in herself and redirects that self-scrutiny to me. I don't know. She also expects me to pay for something in return for her paying for me. I mean, sometimes I can understand that. But I don't demand a payback every time I pay for her. Most of the time, I do it because I'm her friend and I love her. However, she does not see it that way. Again, give and take. If I make, buy, or give something to her, she'll return the favor. A good trait, but not one that friendship should be based on.
When it comes to certain things like this, I move on easily. In this specific case, I will not cry over spilled milk. I am sad, true. I had such high hopes for her. But she is a creature of many terrible habits, and only God can do something to change that. I, myself, am probably one of the most flawed individuals on Earth, but I am always seeking ways to improve myself. Not necessarily in the physical sense. I look to grow emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Because I know that what is in the heart, reflects outwardly.
I should have realized right away the danger I was putting myself in patiently waiting for her to "get me." Alas, it's over. It's time to move on. I've learned from this, and I hope not to make the same mistake again. Que sera sera, I guess.
Put simply, a message on Facebook.
Exactly, why?
Something like this couldn't have waited a little longer? I just finished a 9 day show, and sang in 3 services. My body is exhausted, I got a touch of the stomach flu or whatever is ailing me, my sister may have cancer, and yet I find a message in my inbox telling me that our friendship is over because of money? Hmm, that's pretty lame if you ask me.
I mean, to throw away years of friendship so flippantly? That may happen to some people, but that does not happen to ME. However, it was her choice, so I respected it. I prayed about it, and I believe it's God's will to let this happen. I have not shed a single tear, nor will I ever regret making this decision. Looking back, I realize that I deserve better. And that she needs someone who can knock some sense into her. I am done giving all the time. I mean, I don't mind. It's what I like to do. And not because I always expect something in return. I just love serving people and giving to them. However, she likes the whole give and take friendship. Which, I believe, is a shallow foundation on which our friendship was built on. A mistake on my part.
However, to call me stupid on a daily basis, telling me how inferior I am in subtle yet biting ways, and constantly tell me that I eat way too much and that I should go on a diet is not edifying at all. Maybe she doesn't want to see the flaws in herself and redirects that self-scrutiny to me. I don't know. She also expects me to pay for something in return for her paying for me. I mean, sometimes I can understand that. But I don't demand a payback every time I pay for her. Most of the time, I do it because I'm her friend and I love her. However, she does not see it that way. Again, give and take. If I make, buy, or give something to her, she'll return the favor. A good trait, but not one that friendship should be based on.
When it comes to certain things like this, I move on easily. In this specific case, I will not cry over spilled milk. I am sad, true. I had such high hopes for her. But she is a creature of many terrible habits, and only God can do something to change that. I, myself, am probably one of the most flawed individuals on Earth, but I am always seeking ways to improve myself. Not necessarily in the physical sense. I look to grow emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Because I know that what is in the heart, reflects outwardly.
I should have realized right away the danger I was putting myself in patiently waiting for her to "get me." Alas, it's over. It's time to move on. I've learned from this, and I hope not to make the same mistake again. Que sera sera, I guess.